Anonymous post.. Please share my divorce story, i feel like it's time to heal and move on. Thanks!

 My name is Bimpe and I’ll like to share my Divorce story.

I was married to my husband for 7years and just a week after our wedding day, I got my first slap. My husband constantly cheated on me before and after we got married although I was initially blind to this. He started beating me from the onset of our marriage.

The Sad thing is, He claims to be a pastor, who loves God, preaches to people to give their love to Christ……that was how he got me too with deception, as I thought he was a good man. 
But no, he is a fraudster by work, and doesn’t even have a university degree…..he lied about all these before our wedding and I was devastated when I found out.

 

I was too busy with work at the time to notice all these ills early, I only found out some months after the wedding. I was young at the time we got married and we courted for just 8months. 
I hold a master’s degree now and still advancing in the academic ladder.

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The latest before my divorce was that there is this girl he sees who lives directly on the same street with us…this lady was asides the other girls he frolicks with and has had affairs with in the past.

At first, when I learnt about the girl, he told me he was trying to help her get a job, but I was later warned by the friend he introduced her to in order to help get the job that there was more to his relationship with the girl.

Later, I caught him making money transfers to this same girl’s account and giving her money. I questioned him and he said nothing. Meanwhile, he doesn’t give me enough money as his wife, I always have to fend for myself.

They also exchange calls, text messages which he would later delete so I wouldn’t find out what they were saying. I tried not to take these to heart.

People have also seen him carrying the girl in his car at night, even gate men around our house confirmed it. Each time he steps out to say he wants to pray with an excuse to go out for at least an hour or 2 every night it was to carry out his dubious acts

My road to Divorce..,

One day, he invited/brought the girl to our family Church even after my complaints of not liking his communication with the girl because she doesn’t even greet me, even though she lives on my street, is close to my husband and calls him all the time.

Unfortunately, at that church service, the girl sat close to me 
and I became distracted by her presence. I didn’t like the scenario and I felt spited, so I then sent my husband a message right there in church to ask if he had invited her to spite me…the response I got from my husband was shocking, he rained abuses on me, 
called me fool, stupid, told me he hates me, that I should leave his life and in his words, I can go get f**ked.

That was when it dawned on me that I don’t matter to him anymore. I wanted us to talk about the incident later but instead, he became aggressive towards me from that moment. He would push or shove me aside whenever I needed to talk to him and threatened to beat me blue-black if I don’t leave him alone. I finally took the cue and decided to leave because he was acting like one under the influence of jazz but I kept praying that he would come to his senses.

I tried to fight for my marriage but all effort proved abortive. It wasn’t about this particular girl alone, his whole life wasn’t just right and he was going to drag me down with him if I didn’t stay away.

I finally summoned courage, since we had no issue (kids) and these demonic cheating signs and domestic violence was all i need to file for divorce. Though my church and family members was against it but he who wears the shoe, knows where it hurts.

The last draw was one wednesday evening i was home preparing dinner because i closed from work early that day. After cooking the door bell rang, i went to get the door and behold it was my husband with this same girl. I refused to let them in, he slapped me and that was how they both ganged up and beat me.

I woke up in a hospital, it was my neighbour who heard my cry and decided to rescue me after i passed out. I didn’t go back home after that big fight, i sent my lawyer some police men and my sister to go get my belongings and drop the divorce papers for his signature. That was how i ended my marriage. Thanks for sharing my story.